We grew up believing that having more than one wife was against God’s will.
But was it really against Igbo tradition?
Long before missionaries arrived, polygyny was a recognized part of Igbo society. It wasn’t considered shameful or immoral. It was a cultural institution that served social, economic, and family purposes.
Then everything changed.
If you wanted baptism, Holy Communion, child presentation, or certain privileges in the Church, there were expectations about the kind of marriage you should have.
What I still struggle to understand is this: How does the marital status of parents affect an innocent child seeking to be presented before God?
If you wanted to hold leadership positions in the Church, there were also expectations about the kind of marriage you should have.
Gradually, many of us began to see our own customs through foreign eyes.
Today, we often condemn our ancestors for practicing the traditions they inherited, while embracing customs introduced from outside our land.
Then I remembered a passage that raises an interesting question.
The Bible says that a time would come when seven women would take hold of one man, asking only to bear his name (Isaiah 4:1).
If one man having multiple wives is always portrayed as evil, why does Scripture describe such a situation without making that the focus of its condemnation?
So I ask:
Did Christianity replace Igbo marriage traditions?
Or did it simply introduce a different understanding of marriage that many people chose to embrace?
Whether you support monogamy or polygyny today is your personal choice.
But should we rewrite history and pretend that traditional Igbo society was always monogamous?
Let’s have an honest conversation.
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